Waiting for Kiev
Less than 2 weeks to go before my husband, 5 year old daughter, Karen, and I will fly to Kiev in hopes of adopting a second child. We adopted our daughter in Ukraine almost exactly 3 years ago. She’s very excited about going to Ukraine. She knows that she was born there, and she can’t wait to see snow for the first time in her memory, and to start lobbing snowballs at mom and dad.
This blog will be my attempt to maintain updates about our status during the adoption, and the personal issues we encounter during the process. Who knows, I may even continue this blog after we get home, when the real challenges begin.
While I am concerned about Karen’s reaction to seeing a baby home that may bring back early memories and fears, I am also hoping that this may help uncover as yet unverbalized worries on her part. she’s already asked if we will be able to see “the lady whose tummy I was born from”. My reply, “I’m sorry, but we will be very, very far away from where she is, even if we did know exactly how to find her, which we don’t.” Karen doesn’t yet know that she was relinquished by the “tummy lady”. I expect more pointed questions once we are there.
Our hopes are for a 2-3 year old sister for Karen. Ideally, I would have liked a younger child, and Karen is begging for a “baby”, but it isn’t possible for non Ukrainians to adopt a child who is less than 1.5 years old and the majority of healthy and available children are over 2 years old.
We are also excited to be in Ukraine for New Years, and then Orthodox Christmas and finally for the Ukrainian elections in January. I just hope all these celebrations don’t affect our timeline for getting the hell out of dodge. Last time we spent 33 days in Ukraine, and it was a VERY long month. The process normally takes 30-45 days.