While there may seem to have been much focus on Karen this month, Matan too has made great strides in language and play while we navigate the complex municipal procedures to have Matan in a speech school next year. The Center for Childhood Development has helped guide us through the circuitous process, but even with their backing, the municipality is a law unto themselves. We were supposed to have a review board that decides whether to admit Matan by end of February, but due to “internal problems at the municipality”, this is now pushed to April, at which time I’m sure it will be pushed again for Passover.

Matan’s vocabulary is improving almost daily, but he still shies away from using verbs. Most of the work I do with him focuses on using verbs and helping him become more independent, something he is also eager to increase. He’s unambiguous about stating what he wants and doesn’t want, which is great in terms of communication, and development. He enjoys playing with peers, but prefers being with me over most anything else. He’s become much more strident in his “NO”, and bawls when he doesn’t get his way. This is frustrating for me, but I understand how important it is for him to find his sense of self in this way.

The most beautiful part of having both children is seeing the two of them playing together, watching over each other and falling asleep together. True, they do fight, but it’s so limited compared to the amount of time they are happy together. Karen really loves feeling like she takes care of him. If he cries because I told him “no” to something, she will immediately come to his defense. She even makes breakfast (cereal and milk) for him some mornings. She’s learned that if she wants to eat cereal in peace and quiet, then she’ll have to make him a small bowl too.