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Comment on Mean girls by Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 17 May 2013 13:37:30 +0000

Hi Lita. Long time. I agree with Dana’s recc. about class presentation. It is very empowering. Michal did it for her daughter and Adi wants to know I will prepare one for her. Adi’s school counselor is very supportive as well.
Please give me your phone no. i would love to say hi . we are leaving in two weeks to the states for the summer.
be in touch. lots of love. from one that totally gets it!!

Comment on Mean girls by Dana

Dana — Tue, 14 May 2013 19:02:14 +0000

Oh, poor Karen! How awful that she has had to carry that around with her all this time. Kids are so cruel, it’s awful. I think, that although I certainly understand DH’s desire to address the parents, going about it this way might be counter productive, and in the end put Karen up for even more ridicule by making the parents defensive. But I also agree that the teacher probably won’t have much success.

The best thing to do is probably not to react quickly but to think it through, think about what you want to achieve and what is the smartest way to do that.

What about doing a class presentation on adoption? You and DH could come in, Karen could share her experiences and you could tell the class how out of all the kids in the world, you chose Karen.

Comment on Mean girls by Erica

Erica — Tue, 14 May 2013 16:22:21 +0000

This makes me so sad. The ignorance and cruelty is stunning. I’ve been on the fence about going to my kids’ elementary school to educate the students about adoption, and I think I will start. I’ve been hesitant because I don’t want my kids to feel singled out, but maybe I will start with the kids younger than them, just volunteer to do a presentation on dispelling myths about adoption. GAH, I’m so sorry. Please give your daughter and husband a hug, and then tell them you need one, too. <3

Comment on Mean girls by Miriam

Miriam — Tue, 14 May 2013 03:01:24 +0000

Oh My Goodness! After knowing you pre Karen, I feel so horribly for all of you! I feel like I have semi lived through your life pre Karen and Matan and then your lives with children. I cannot imagine such horrible situations where your child is sad and embarrassed to be adopted. As she grows older I know she will come to understand how special she is and how wonderful a family she has. Unfortunately as a young child being different is not a good thing. It makes me so angry to hear of how other children treat or talk to her. Is adoption such an enigma there? Not that that matters, really. Hugs to you all because I know that nothing I can say will make it better.

Comment on Mean girls by Evelyn Ruut

Evelyn Ruut — Mon, 13 May 2013 22:49:32 +0000

Children can be so cruel. Those who have grown up after being bullied or shut out or treated badly by the mean girls in school learn a great and valuable lesson from it, but that lesson comes only in retrospect, not at the time you are undergoing it. The lesson consists of this; Don’t look to other people or to friends for evidence of your own value as a human being. Other people can be jealous, or just plain mean. Their motives are not always to be trusted. But for the person who has turned away from viewing the opinions of others as their barometer of value, they have a truer picture. Having only themselves to look to, they see more clearly, knowing their own motives and intentions best of all. Karen may be hurting but if she herself knows the value of her life, and how good it is for her that she was adopted and has loving parents in her life, she has the greatest and clearest view of all. How do I know this? I was bullied, and although I wasn’t adopted, my family circumstances were difficult. I am old now, but I hope that your Karen finds her self confidence and self worth sooner than it took me to do it!

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Comment on Sales junkie at age eight? by Dana

Dana — Thu, 02 May 2013 18:27:51 +0000

Let her do it. If it was an obsession with money and buying things I might be concerned but it sounds to me like she is experimenting with independence and that is a great thing. Encourage her.

Comment on Sales junkie at age eight? by Quentin

Quentin — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 00:45:02 +0000

Totally for it. You’re dead on its not about buying stuff, it’s the fascination with the whole process. It’s a sign of growing up, and is a healthy activity.

Comment on Zionism is not a dirty word by Arab Spring – Thank you for Game of Thrones – Zendette

Arab Spring – Thank you for Game of Thrones – Zendette — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 20:07:50 +0000

[...] I was fortunate in that some of my new Tweeps were willing to engage me, even though my profile notes that I’m Israeli. When I first encountered Twitter, I wasn’t aware how rare it was for Arabs to agree to discuss topics with “Zionists”. They use it as a curse word. More about Zionists/ism here. [...]

Comment on What a difference a year makes by erica

erica — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 11:53:17 +0000

I am in awe of Karen’s strength and resiliency! What an amazing, beautiful little girl you have. You guys are wonderful parents!

Comment on What a difference a year makes by Dana

Dana — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 08:05:24 +0000

It’s been so wonderful to watch Karen transform this past year and for you and DH also to go from worry, sadness and panic to seeing your girl triumph and shine. I am so proud of her and of you! You go Karen!